So, here’s something embarrassing. And isn’t that what life’s all about; embarrassing ourselves? Doing things that normal people may not do and then sharing it with anyone within gossip distance?

Because I hang out with mainly single emotionally immature comedian, writer, actress types, I was peer pressured into joining My Space. Yes, I know, I know, I could very easily get arrested for trying to get into some 13 year old’s pants. I’ve seen it on Dateline like the rest of America but…here’s the thing. One night while boredly perusing the My Space features, I realized that you could put in searches for distinct things such as married women who live in my zip code. So I did it. It wasn’t a prerequisite that they have a baby because I know many interesting people with no kids but I did want to see if anyone with any semblence of a personality lived within spitting distance of my suburban house. Well, I hit paydirt. One woman, early thirties, hilarious profile, happily married, cute pic (hey, I’m not gay but no one needs really unattractive friends am I right?) popped up in my search. She seemed very funny in her profile which you know is rare. A rare commodity which I would gladly pay for.

I’m a total girls girl. Let that be mentioned now. I have always had a best friend. I do love men with all my heart, hell, I’m even married to one, but I really really relate to women. And not in a “let’s get manni pedi’s and shop til we drop” kind of way. I’m so not girlie in that way except when it comes to my not so small obsession with lip gloss. I can’t seem to own enough, so okay, I’m a little girlie. But I’m also addicted to online poker and follow football each and every season. ANYWAY…

I asked the My Space girl, let’s just call her Shannon, to be my friend and she said yes. Isn’t that so third grade? But it turns out, she lives literally down the street from me so after a lot of emailing back and forth to be sure this wasn’t some Single White Female situation, we had coffee. And we clicked. Don’t you just love clicking with a new girlfriend? Like you can talk and talk and time flies and you forget about your “possible” drinking problem and your unrelenting anxiety and the boring state of your life for a few glorious hours? And today we hung out again. She’s cool with babies – loves them in fact. Or is a good actress, has many of the same interests as I do and I could listen to her talk for days. Plus, my favorite, she’s open and honest and not afraid to tell me embarrassing shit on our second date.

I am in! And if any of you decide to move to LA, we can be friends too. I’ve got enough female love to go around!

Posted by Stefanie Wilder Taylor on March 6, 2006 4:48 amUncategorized18 comments  


  1. IzzyMom said,

    Ugh…it’s 3am. I can’t sleep. Congrats on your new BFF. She sounds fab. I’m jealous. My BFF’s live in 2 different states. Far away states…

    | March 6, 2006 @ 8:27 am

  2. Heatheranne said,

    Very cool! I don’t have any BFFs. But funny you should call your post that. Last week at work I was joking (because sometimes I do that) and I called one of my co-workers a BFF and she totally thought I meant something naughty starting with “Butt”.

    | March 6, 2006 @ 12:10 pm

  3. Jess Riley said,

    I’m so happy for you!!! 🙂 That is such a funny, sweet story. I may have to find a new local friend on MySpace soon, too. (Most of my BFF’s live at least 45 minutes away now.)

    | March 6, 2006 @ 3:51 pm

  4. KTP said,

    I hope our date isn’t anticlimactic. What with my momminess and all.

    | March 6, 2006 @ 6:30 pm

  5. Shannon, a.k.a. Shannon said,

    I’m jealous of MYSELF. Thank you so much, I’m blushing. If it’s not too soon to say it, I LOVE YOU!
    Shamiel, Shamozzle!

    | March 6, 2006 @ 7:14 pm

  6. surcie said,

    Dude, that is cool. I’m new in this town and I definitely need girlfriends. . .Trying to find ’em always feels like I’m part of the dating scene again. Bleh. Hey, maybe somebody should start an online “hookup” site for moms! (My friends don’t have to be mothers, but it’s nice to comiserate.)

    | March 6, 2006 @ 7:39 pm

  7. MrsFortune said,

    Dang! You lucked out. I should try that thing in my area. How very, very cool. And there were no dateline cameras there when you showed up? Double bonus. 🙂

    | March 6, 2006 @ 11:37 pm

  8. crabbykate said,

    I would totally hang with you if you didn’t live a million miles away!

    | March 7, 2006 @ 4:44 am

  9. Denial said,

    How cool, or I bet 13 year olds aren’t saying that anymore…
    My 2 BFF live 2 hours and 5 hours from me so I can totally relate.

    | March 7, 2006 @ 5:14 am

  10. sweatpantsmom said,

    “..no one needs really unattractive friends am I right?”

    This was hysterical.

    | March 7, 2006 @ 6:29 am

  11. Anonymous said,

    Damn it’s good to remember that we *can* still make good friends past the age of 25. Delighted that you’ve found a like mind – because let’s face it, what were the odds?


    | March 7, 2006 @ 7:27 pm

  12. Kristen said,

    LOL I had no idea what Myspace was and my friend (real) suckered me into it. I WISH I was in LA – and like Iz – my bffs are all far away… All I have are BBFF (blogging ….)

    | March 7, 2006 @ 8:27 pm

  13. Lena said,

    Ahh! I love this post! I needed a good laugh (one that wasn’t maniacal – ha!).

    I also was peer pressured into My Space. My mother freaked out and assured me I would be murdered shortly. I just liked to find old highschool classmates….to brag of my wealth and fame. 😉

    Congrats on the new girlfriend! I’m in the San Diego area….and cute and like long walks in the park and sunsets. LOL!

    | March 8, 2006 @ 5:21 am

  14. Alexa said,

    If only I had a private jet, I would gladly be your real life, un-mediated-by-fiber-optic-cables friend. Alas.
    Glad you found a new BFF. Perhaps I will try this “myspace” you speak of…

    | March 8, 2006 @ 3:10 pm

  15. chris said,

    that’s wonderful. You’re very resourceful.

    | March 8, 2006 @ 4:00 pm

  16. Emily said,

    Oh how I wish I knew you when I lived in LA. But I was so lonely there you’d probably have thought I was a stalker 😉 (kidding, I haven’t done that for years! — really kidding. Anyone who knows me knows I’m MUCH too lazy to stalk anyone

    Very cool about your BFF.

    | March 10, 2006 @ 1:39 am

  17. scarbie doll said,

    Dooode, I have also been considering signing up on MySpace after reading the Vanity Fair article, but have mixed feelings about it. I am all for joining something that’s culturally relevant too.

    I moved to the not-so-cool side of Toronto from the uber-cool side in August. It was the only place we could afford to buy without moving out to the burbs. Our ghetto neighb is sandwiched between some chi-chi ones and I wasn’t meeting moms I liked (aka moms who say fuck). My core group of girls don’t have kids either and they just don’t “get it.”

    Luckily, through the blog, I found two awesome moms who blog and happen to live nearby. We get together once a month without kids to drink and swear and bitch.

    So I totally get it. The internet saved my social life too.

    | March 14, 2006 @ 5:40 pm

  18. Krisco said,

    Congrats on finding a cool new friend, and in your hood no less! Wow.

    And congrats on the upcoming book! It looks great!

    | March 17, 2006 @ 6:28 am

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